Lean In | Sheryl Sandberg

| August 25, 2015 | 0 Comments

Lean In | Sheryl Sandberg

This isn’t a book I would normally read, but being a part of a book club, this was the book of the month. After finishing it, it was an incredible book. I recommend, men and women to read this book, whether you are looking to take your career forward or to have a better relationship with your spouse.

Courtesy of cbmw.org

Courtesy of cbmw.org

Sit at the Table

I think this is one of the chapter’s that hit me the most. After reading the story about how Ms. Sandberg hosted a meeting and how the 4 women at the meeting sat in chairs off to the side of the room. After reading that they had ‘every right to be at that table’ I clearly remember a very similar situation that happened to me very early in my career in landscape architecture. Being new to the professional world, I was extremely insecure. How could I think I could sit at a table full of Landscape Architects, Architects and Engineers? It was almost like I wasn’t worthy enough to sit at a table full of these professionals. Those are the insecurities screaming at me. Almost 10 years later in this industry, I still have my insecurities of course, but I now know I should be at that table.

‘Taking initiative pays off. It is hard to visualize someone as a leader if she is always waiting to be told what to do’

It’s a Jungle Gym, Not a Ladder

In this chapter. it is discussed how it used to be called climbing the ladder to get ahead in your career. Here, they talk about it being a jungle gym, more ways to get to the top. Instead of going just up and down, you can go side to side and offer more exploration. Do you remember as a kid playing at recess going all over the place on a tot lot? If you think about it, in Landscape Architecture, there are many ways to use the knowledge we gain. In my article 10 Different Careers in Landscape Architecture, you can do more than just work at a firm and work your way up from there.

The Myth of Doing It All

There is no such thing as doing it all or having it all. It was brought to my attention that many people ask women, ‘How do you do it? Balance work and family’ but not many, if any, ask men this question. It seems like it is automatically assumed that the woman has to make the sacrifices and the compromises in order to have a career, spouse and children. And… You know what they say about people who assume…

Great quote by Gloria Steinem ‘You can’t do it all. No one can have two full time jobs, have perfect children and cook three meals and be multi-orgasmic ’til dawn…Superwoman is the adversary of the women’s movement’

This also goes into Make Your Partner a Real Partner. Having a spouse that can truly support you and your ambitions (and you support them as well) makes this so much easier and attainable to reach your professional and personal goals.

Working Together Toward Equality

‘Men need to support women and, I wish it went without saying, women need to support women too’ It is extremely unfortunate that it seems like women are threatened by other women’s success. There are the extreme circumstances where those women will do almost anything to bring other’s down. The trick is not letting that person win at bringing you down. Don’t let them weasel their way into your thoughts, don’t let it occupy your personal time. That person isn’t worth it. If it does get out of hand, be sure you do speak to a supervisor.

It’s Time to Lean In

There are so many things to say about this book! I learned it’s ok and encouraged to ask for more (with in reason). It’s ok to have a counter offer to an employment contract. It’s ok to talk to your manager about a raise. It’s ok to take a leap of faith and try something new, even if you aren’t 100% qualified, only if you are going to give it your all and do the best job you possibly can.

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